The other day I was wearing a cheesy hat that has the
characters for the word safe… and Christine said something like, oh you’re the
safe guy. I put my face in my hands, and Ben started laughing. Then she said
“No, everyone will know you are safe person to talk with” Augh!
4 years ago at CSU Cindy Tirey told me she trusts you
because you are safe. Oh dagger in my heart! And Mark laughed at me. Then she
said Mark was safe… we walked away and consoled each other…
I asked a question on IM
Is it a compliment or an insult to be called “one of the guys/girls”?
I believe every guy said insult, but only one girl (Kelly
Hebrank from Yale).
What do you think?
For years Jenny Brusoe said it was a compliment, until she
began to feel like a safe girl… then she understood my plight.
During one of my first regional staff conferences, Nate
ardle came up to me and said
“I see you’ve been hanging out with a lot of girls”
“Yeah, but it’s not good”
“WHAT? How can it not be good?”
“Because I’ve become a safe guy”
“Wha… oh. I know what you mean – NO! That’s not good!”
“Yeah, they hang out with me, they’ll be my friend, but
that’s it. I’m safe”
“Yeah, I had a friend like that in college, it took him
forever to find a girl…”
I came back and was telling my roommate – Dennis Leskowski
and the guest who never left Bob burbach the story
Me: “Yeah, I’ve become the safe guy- the good friend, the ethnic minority they’d never
Dennis: “You’re the gay guy!”
Me: No, I like to think of it more as the neighbor next door
Dennis: “I like the gay guy!”
No guy wants to be the safe guy- and if they do, they’re
Girls say they want to date their best friend – THEY’RE ALL
Char Barwin and I were discussing this at CSU, the people we
wind up dating are the ones we consider mysterious.
Safe – never. Dangerous- may flirt with, but won’t go home
with. Mysterious- have to figure him/her out.
This is why it is best to keep your distance from girls. In
college apparently a number of girls liked me. Then I decided I would try to
build some friendships, and now no one will ever want to date me…
As Ben Buehler said ten years ago: “Nice guys get the shaft.”
We were going to make t-shirts…