i have joked i get one date a year- and it usually winds up around this time… especially since i’ve come to East asia and have mid-year conference. It’s a bit of a joke, but there is some truth to it.
Some say i am a different person, but i always say i reflect the people i am around. And plus during vacation i don’t have responsibilities and pressures upon me, so i can be free… plus i like people…
Thailand of course is an ideal place to go on a date. People are happy in Thailand, it’s not real life. Plus, there is no pressure.
Girls are more likley to go out with a guy they barely know, than someone they have already discarded in their mind. And a guy is more likely to ask a girl out because there is less risk. If you’re rejected, there aren’t any real consequences.
People often talk about the horrors of long-distance relationships- but they happen so often- i think because a long-distance relationship is safer. A break-up doesn’t necessarily change your day-to-day life. And a rejection means nothing to your group of friends.
i think people further like the long-distance relationship because it gives another excuse for when the relationship gets difficult and they stop wanting to work on it.
And so we show up at a conference, and it feels like the perfect situation.
Though the big problem for me this year is i apparently am not allowed to talk to a girl or sit by her at a meeting or say “Hi” back- because any of those actions mean i want to marry her.
i really don’t understand people.
Now, if i’m sitting alone with her in a coffee shop, staring intently into her eyes, at a table for two- different story. But, can’t a guy and a girl be friends? Can’t they have a civil conversation with each other?
3-4 more blogs coming on related subject…